When I began to study the 7th step of the AA program, which says, “Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings,” my list of shortcomings included a catalogue of feelings. I humbly asked God to remove my anger, fear, and guilt; I looked forward to the day when I would never experience any of these emotions again. Of course, that day never arrived; instead I have learned that feelings aren’t shortcomings. Instincts are God given and therefore good. They enable us to survive and show how deeply human and loving we can be. The true nature of my problem was my stubborn refusal to acknowledge feelings, to accept them, and to let them go. I have very little power over when they arise, but what I choose to do about them and how long I hang on to the feeling is my responsibility. Today I can share about how I feel and recognize that feelings are not facts. I am no longer stuck in a state of seemingly endless rage or self-pity, for when I give myself permission to experience emotions, the feelings pass. My emotions have not been removed; instead, I have been relieved of shortcomings that blocked my self-acceptance.
When I take the 7th step, I pray that whatever interferes with my Higher Power’s will for me may be removed. I don’t have to have all the answers. I need only be willing.Share post