Are you overly concerned about what other people think of you? Do you make decisions based on what might make someone else happy? Do you edit your opinions or withhold sharing how you really feel to avoid upsetting someone? How about constantly seeking validation from outside sources? Believe me, you are not alone. People pleasing is one of the most common character traits in alcoholics and addicts. Our egos loved to be liked and validated. It is human nature to want to fit in and not rock the boat because it feels safer. But after awhile, this ego-feeding proposition becomes an impossible nightmare.
For starters, it is a tremendous waste of time and energy. The time we spend worrying about what others think of us zaps our personal resources. Add up all the time you spend taking actions to please other people, and you may find it is a full time job! To be clear, a considerate, kind person who is loving and of service is a noble character trait. But people pleasing in not an act of service, it is actually selfish. We take actions to get our ego stroked, to get approval, or for some sort of pay off. And the real travesty is that we never get to find out who we really are. If we practice the first step of honesty and integrity, we can become the person God wants us to be.Share post