Self-Pity can bind you to your disease like super glue and not allow you to go on to the future. You will never find your true calling when self-pity is the driving force. Many things can lead us to feeling sorry for ourselves and even the belief that life has no meaning or purpose. Most of us get to Alcoholics Anonymous because we were beaten by our disease. There is nothing left but wreckage and we often feel like victims.
Although we must look at the past, wallowing in it is disastrous. Our defects of character usually show up in clusters. Once one gets a foothold, the door is open for the others to prance inside. When self-pity enters, depression, resentment and blame usually follow. Self-pity can be as addicting as alcohol. We can drown in it and people often do. Every negative thought releases negative chemicals, which produce disease. Remember, alcoholism is a three-fold illness. There are several ways to get out of self-pity. One is to focus on your Higher Power and all of the beauty that surrounds you. Take a walk and look at the trees, feel the breeze and the sunshine; be grateful for life itself. Many times refusing to forgive is what nails self-pity into place. Let go of past hurts and anger. A bitter, broken heart can be healed. If we practice letting go and trusting that our Higher Power has good things in store, if we are willing to work this program, self-pity and self-seeking will gradually disappear.Share post