It seems to me that many alcoholics deal with anger in inappropriate ways. Denying it is unhealthy. When we are dishonest about how we feel in the moment, there is often an inappropriate explosion of rage at a later time. My first sponsor used to call this a delayed reaction. My feelings were tucked away, misfiled in a messy file cabinet. This anger intensified when I was in a sober living. At times it felt like I was in a pressure cooker. There were so many people to deal with. Several times, I was tempted to leave over personalities. However, I hung in there and am glad I did. Of those people who left sober living early, most did not stay sober. Statistics are pretty clear that alcoholics that remain in sober living for at least six months have more than twice the success rate of those who never go to treatment or leave early. It is a safe place to learn how to recognize and express feelings, especially anger.
Alcoholics Anonymous encourages me to acknowledge me feelings and be responsible for how I express them. I learned from sober examples and a loving, kind sponsor. Anger is not a problem; but inappropriate rage is. I try to release anger as soon as it comes up. If I had a bad day in traffic and am still carrying resentment, I can beat my pillow or yell in the car. Releasing it helps avoid building a resentment. Feeling our feelings is an important part of the recover process. Learning how to balance feelings with appropriate action is another.
“When angry, count to ten before you speak; if very angry, a hundred.”
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