In the past, many of us learned to make choices strictly on the basis of our feelings, as if feelings were facts. If we were frightened about taking a certain action, for example, then it was best avoided. There was no middle ground and no room for more than one feeling at a time. In early sobriety I was enraged, terrified, or asleep. I missed many opportunities by obsessing on a feeling and acting as if it were the truth.
Part of recovery involves learning that feelings aren’t facts. I am a complex human being with a wide arrange of emotions, experiences, and thoughts. There is more to my identity than one feeling, one problem, or one thought. I can value emotions without allowing them to dictate my actions.
Today, I can feel anger towards someone and still love them. I can feel afraid of new experiences, yet move forward through them. I can survive being hurt without giving up on love. And I can experience sadness and still be confident that I will be happy again.Share post