I’ve often heard that happiness is an inside job, and, much of the time, I can be as happy as I decide to be. Yet I’ve often found happiness fleeting. I know it’s unrealistic to expect to be happy all the time, but I think I might achieve this goal much more often if I made a firmer commitment to my decision to be happy. Instead, I choose happiness and then abandon my choice at the first sign of trouble. How deep can my commitment be if I allow even slight obstacles to rob me of my sense of well-being?
Commitment takes work; it is a discipline. When I made a decision, I must ask myself what I really want and if I am willing to work for it. Old habits are hard to break. If I have a long-standing habit of responding to problems by feeling like a helpless victim, it may not be easy to stand by my decision to be happy. A change of attitude sometimes helps. Perhaps I can look at problems as opportunities to commit more deeply to practicing the 12 steps. In other words, every obstacle can prompt me to assert that I really mean it – I do want to be happy.