I never thought I played God.
When I was drinking, and early in my sobriety, I did not believe I could possibly be playing God. Those who did displayed a form of arrogance and lack of power, defects which I did not posses, or so I thought.
Step three talks about alcoholics being egocentric, self-willed and the devastating consequences. As with most people in early recovery, I did not see how that applied to my life. For a recovering person to act as if they are they ultimate authority, in charge of all consequences, is to lead a life of frustration, unhappiness, and ultimately a life of drinking despair.
What I did not understand was that alcoholics, as egocentric people, almost always try to run the show, which is playing God. I was at a meeting the other day and the topic was how to avoid playing God. Here are some great tips:
1: Offer no advice unless asked.
2. Listen to other people’s dreams and help them in the way they wish to be helped.
3. Encourage them to find their own strength.
4. Reserve judgment – at all times.
5. Admit that you don’t know all the answers
6. Dwell on what is right instead of what is wrong.
7. Realize the core of Divine Being in each person. Respect it.
8. Never discount the other person’s good intentions.
After many years of sobriety, I was reminded once again that playing God does not go away once and for all on a permanent basis. On a daily basis I must remember that I am the one reporting for duty, not my higher power.