The program of recovery, in order to succeed must induce surrender. How does giving up help us to win? Let’s look at three facts about recovery and the 12 steps in order to help answer this question: 1) only through powerlessness will an individual ever hope to have any power. 2) only through hopelessness will there ever be hope. 3) only through surrender will there ever be victory. Sounds simple but we know it is not easy. The difficulty in surrender lies in the EGO. It is the biggest barrier the addict/alcoholic has when it comes to recovering from this hopeless malady.
The 12-step process is designed to deflate the ego, thereby facilitating surrender by bringing about humility. Picture a pompous, self-important individual whose inferiorities are masked by self- assurance. Such a person appears thick-skinned, insensitive, and nearly impervious to the existence of others. A self-centered individual who plows unthinkingly through life, intent on gathering unto himself all the comforts and satisfactions available, is the epitome of our disease. Since we know the ego has to be smashed so that surrender is possible, there are three imperatives in order for this to occur: honesty, open-mindedness and willingness.
To quote Dr. Harry M. Tiebout, “The opposite of a King is a commoner.” Appropriately, Alcoholics Anonymous stresses humility. The opposite of impatience is the ability to take things in stride, to make an inner reality of the slogan, “Easy does it.” The opposite of drive is staying in one position, where one can be open-minded, receptive and responsive (teachable).Share post