I have spent the last week sitting on a newcomer that has the obsession to drink, but has not caved in to the desire. It is a beautiful thing when someone wants sobriety bad enough to go to any lengths. They get my undivided attention and support. It is one of the best ways in Alcoholics Anonymous I can show my appreciation for those people who gave me hours of their time and energy when I was newly sober. The most beautiful thing about working with another alcoholic is that I end up teaching exactly what I need to practice for that day.
The inner critic is one of the most apparent characteristics we have as alcoholics. I listened to this new woman fret and worry over the future and blame her mercilessly for the past. How easy it is to tell someone else to change from negative to positive thinking! But the real solution lies in our actions. I cannot think my self into right action; I must act myself into right thinking, and eventually right living. I have learned that what you sow, you reap. An old-timer used to tell me “you can’t plant radishes and expect cucumbers.” The law of the universe dictates that if I pour in slop, I get back slop. If you are an alcoholic, especially in the early days of recovery, you know this intellectually but you think you are above the law and try a little controlling job on you’re thinking. You are not getting back what you want, but you think you can think your way into getting it.
The only way we can get back love and fulfillment is to give it. I received tremendous amounts of love and encouragement from people in Alcoholics Anonymous when I came in, and I continue to receive it today. Loving this new gal and attempting to steer her out of the bad neighborhood of her own mind is an act of love. If I plant the seeds of service, hope and love, I will flourish.Share post